I always knew this time would come, the day when a special guy would proclaim his love to my big sister. I cannot wait to see what the future holds for all us, and I could not be more excited to see my sister find someone who is so good to her. That “for real,” moment occurred when he finally popped the question. The feeling and thought, “I will have to share my sister with someone.”
We’ve been best friends since before I even knew what a best friend was and we’ve been through some serious ups and downs. Not to mention, fights that could destroy any other relationship. But we’ve always had the time of our lives knowing that no matter what words are exchanged, we will always be there for each other. That at the end of the day, no matter how big or small the fight, you are still my big sister who has always had my back no matter what.
Having a big sister is one of the best things ever. You have someone who stands beside you and fights your every battle with you. A big sister doesn’t ever let you fall down because they can’t fathom having to pick you back up. No matter if you want it or not, you will forever have someone to give you advice. Good or bad, big sisters are there to tell you how it is. To tell you the truth that no one else will build up the courage to tell you. Oh, and don’t forget that having a big sister means someone who will take the blame for all the crazy things you know you should have gotten in trouble for.
Whether it’s teaching me how to put on makeup or deciding that I would just wear whatever my older sister put on me (I still wonder how she convinced me of this), to teaching me how to walk into car doors; a big sister will always be the most honest person you’ll ever have in your life. From calling me out on wearing her clothes or letting me tag along every day of the summer when I couldn’t drive, my big sister would always give me the best advice.
I guess it’s that that time and we’re both growing up. Whether it’s moving away, fighting off boyfriends, or yelling at each other for making stupid decisions, you will always be my big sister. I guess that means you’re my favorite sister and the sister who completes my world. You help me to be rational. Somehow, you help me to understand the things that never make sense. You are the big sister who puts the world aside to make your baby sister smile. Lastly, You do whatever it takes to give me the world. (I often wonder what I ever did to deserve all this!)
So, now that you’re engaged, some people might think this is friends parting of ways. That now with a husband or partner, we will never see each other. That it won’t be like the old days. It will be different. I guess by now he knows that I will be on the phone with you during dinner; or whenever I come to town the world will pause for you to spend time with your baby sister. Let’s be real, by now, he is probably ready for anything you could throw his way.
Before you embark on this new and exciting journey with the love of your life, there are a few things I want you to remember as you start your new and exciting lives together.
- They always say high school and college will be the time of our lives. However, something I have grown to learn is that marriage has been, and are the best years undoubtedly. Not every day will be the best. Hang in there because your partner has so much to offer and wants to grow with you for the rest of your life.
- You’ll both have to make sacrifices. Which could mean letting the house get a little extra messy to be able to spend some quality time together. Maybe, giving up watching a tv show this week. Remind yourself, our loved ones are the first ones we are aggravated with.
- Lastly, I want you to know I am always here for you in sickness and in health, for better or for worse. As a sister I have always been there and this could never change. In this new path leading to the rest of your life I will walk hand in hand with you. I will always be the over-protective baby sister. I love you and could not be happier for you.
Congratulations on this new adventure.
Take a deep breath and let it all happen. Enjoy the time together and remember the importance of all the planning. When something goes wrong, remember who to look to. He’s here for you now and he is excited about your future together, just as I am excited for you.
Your Baby Sister